Women - Our Secrets Are Out


So Professor Vidushi Gupta is here to break the “girl code” and put out the secrets, which I'm sure many men know anyways :
  • First thing first, if we love you, you look more cute to us than handsome or sexy, or a combination of all. We're women, and “Awww”, “cute” and other mushy names are just a part of our dictionary. We may not say it to you because you get irritated, but we swoon over your cuteness.
  • Just like you check out other women, we check out other men. No big deal.
  • We can get a little bit of crushes here and there too. But they're nothing to worry about. We forget them in some hours, or a day. At the end, our heart beats only for our man.
  • If any girl tries to get too close to our guy, we become hell mad, protective, possessive, territorial and everything. We understand friendship and everything, but our guy is our guy, none of your guy.
  • We know where exactly your eyes are.
  • We are better detectives than FBI. This is true for all women. No matter how many girlfriends you change, she will still be a detective. We know everything, we can know everything when it comes to the man we love.
  • No, we don't have a crush on our male bestie ( not speaking for the playgirls who keep more than one boyfriend). We will always choose our guy over our male bestie if both need us at the same time (if the girl and the relationship with her guy is genuine).
  • Just like you love your parents more than your girlfriend, women also love their parents more than their boyfriends. Kindly refrain from saying anything bad about them.
  • The only creatures that think men are simple to understand are men themselves. Ask any heterosexual woman, and she'll nod her head vigorously and say rocket science is more simpler than men.
  • We understand your mood swings, because they're exactly same as ours. But men just feel defensive when you tell them they're experiencing mood swings, because mood swings according to men is a “feminine” trait. But be rest assured men, you all go through it.
  • We may not tell you always that you've hurt us, and we keep it inside our heart almost forever. You never know a woman hides more than 75% of the pain and only “nags” about 25%. Women forgive but women never forget. Not even the slightest thing. We just can't.
  • Sometimes men frustrates us when they expect us to behave like men. Women are not men. Women cannot behave like men. We hate silence 97% of the time. If you're extremely quiet and need your space, we will still ask “what are you thinking?”, “Is anything wrong?”, “Did I do anything to upset you?”, because a woman is designed to behave like this. Forgive us but we cannot act like your “bro” always. We are not your “man bro”, we're your “lady love”. We will behave like a lady.
  • Just like you tell us not to wear revealing clothes, or not to go out at night alone, because you're physically protective of us, same way we try to ask about what's bothering you when we see you sad, because we women are emotionally protective of you in the same way. Just like you cannot stop being physically protective for us, we cannot stop being emotionally protective of you. Please don't misinterpret our efforts as nagging or clingy, we're just acting out from our nature and concern for you.
  • Just like your primary needs are trust, acceptance, respect and understanding, our primary needs are communication, reassurance, validation and care. We will try to give you what you need and you try to give us what we need.
  • Most men show love through sex, and most women have sex only when they feel love. If you're not giving enough love to your woman outside your bedroom, you just cannot expect lots of quality adventures passionate sex inside bedroom. It's a vicious cycle for most couples, where men denies love to woman, and woman denies sex to man.
  • Periods are painful and uncomfortable. As men, the only thing you can do is being considerate about it. Don't say that periods cannot be that bad, or that we should deal with them, or that we should not go to certain places. We're already in misery because of periods, please don't add to our misery in anyway. Be sweet. Your sweetness will be rewarded.
  • We know that the society has taught you to mask your feelings and problems and not talk about them. However, all of us women will advise you men that you should try to talk about them to your woman. Talking about emotions with a male friend and talking about your emotions with the woman you love is a different feeling. Be courageous and come out of all the toxic things that the society has fed you with. Your male friend will handle your emotions practically as he is also a man, but a woman will handle your emotions with softness.
  • We notice everything that the men do for us, but we don't thank about them. That is something we're sorry for.
  • We notice everything that the men in our life don't do for us, but unfortunately, most of us do complain this thing out loud. Again sorry for this.
  • We're more on the emotional side than logical, and most of the times we're unaware that we take decisions based on our emotions and not logic. You are more logical than emotional. Lets agree to take decisions together so that you can take care of the logical part and we the emotional part.
  • We're not trying to “change” you or “improve” you, we know you'll be doing fine even without us. But we women have this habit to make everything perfect, and our advise for you come from the same place. We advise you so that you can be the bestest, the most successful. Your success, your happiness truly makes us happy. Your mother, your girlfriend, your wife “nags” you from the same feminine nature. We don't know any other way than communication to sharpen you. Most of us are really weak in the silence game.
  • We know your strengths and weaknesses. It's okay if sometimes you let your guard down in front of us. You're humans too. You get afraid, tired and tensed and that's okay. We're there for you.
  • We leave everything for you. Our parents, our family, our friends, our city, our name, only to start a new life with you. It is very very difficult to leave everything for a man. Please don't break our immense trust in you by being unsupportive. You can argue with us, but never leave our side. In our new life, you're the person we trust the most in our new family.
  • We respect you when you respect us. We respect you when you respect our dreams.
  • And last but the most important, we need you. As father, as brother, as lover or a husband, as son, or as a stranger who protect us from many things. There is no substitute for all the gorgeous men out there.
P.S - By gorgeous I meant amazing, kind and charactered men.

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