What t is your one piece of advice for having a successful lasting relationship?

Fights- Give it time to cool down.

Contrary to the common belief that a couple should never go to bed angry, I believe that after a heated argument both parties should give each other at least a day to cool down.

When my relationship was very new, in the initial months of togetherness, after a fight neither me nor him used to know how to approach a solution and normalcy after a fight. We were both each other's first partner and had no experience in romantic relationships, so our cluelessness did not help us a lot either.

So after each fight, I used to actually google how to resolve a fight. And as most articles advice, the one thing I used to pick up most is that you should make up with your partner as soon as you can.

That, with due time, I realized is a very bad relationship advice. 'Soon’ wasn't described anywhere. And most people take the literal meaning of the word, which in most cases just ignite the issue even more.

Imagine that you and your partner just had a bad fight, that too on a call or even worse, on messages. But then without giving space to each other for cooling down and processing things, one of you again starts bombarding the other one with messages or calls continuously, without realizing how the other one is feeling.

Just an hour before you were fighting with each other angrily, and now you want everything to get back to normal and romantic in a blink of an eye?

Wouldn't that be inconsiderate and desperate?

Of course it will be.

I am not saying that it is mandatory each time to wait for a couple of days to resolves issues. The amount of time that should be given to each other is directly proportional to the nature of fight.

If it was a mundane issue, few hours are enough, but if the fight was really bad, it would be a good option to give each other a day of peace so as to calm down.

There shouldn't be any rush to make up. Of course, no fight should be stretched more than a few days, utmost a week. But yes, that doesn't mean that a fight HAS to be completely resolved the same day on which it occurred.

If you both are calm and cool, you can communicate the same day, if one of you or both are still angry and heated up, it is advisable to go to sleep and wait for a day to communicate.

We all know too late is bad, but then, so is too soon.

Don't delay, but don't rush as well.

We shouldn't wait too much, but we should definitely wait a little.