Do all women run behind rich men?

Okay so this question is half incomplete in literal sense, but after going through the “gold digger” theory n number of times on Quora since past sixteen months, I decided to look into the matter.

So basically I have categorized women into categories and based it on the kind of romantic partners they seek.

A long article ahead .

Category 1 : Women with rich parents with rich habits.

Now I would like to mention not every girl with rich parents is same, but I am writing on “majority”. These kind of girls are born with a golden spoon in mouth. VLCC, Lakme parlours, gyms, lunches and dinners in expensive places, exotic vacations, a personal car, a wardrobe of branded clothes and shoes and perfume, these girls are “Papa's princess”. So when they choose a partner, subconsciously they look out for a guy who can keep up and provide all that she's habitual of. They can befriend any guy, but for choosing a partner, she will always look for someone who has a financial background as of her, or her dad.

Category 2 : Women with professional degrees.

If a woman has a professional degree with her like Ph.D, CA, CS, Dr, lawyer, mostly she would want a man who is equally educated in same degree and earning. Mostly this thought of equal education and earning comes from the thought that if husband and wife are same professionals, they can built a firm together and have a prosperous future, and husband in the same field is more likely to understand her work and not limit her.

Category 3 : Women who are too meek to stand up for themselves.

These women are tied up by their parents and relatives. They don't look for a groom themselves, instead they “have to” marry the guy their elders finalize. And the elders of previous generation keeps the financial aspect as the top priority when they look for a groom. So the girls of this category, mostly from lower class, or lower middle class, really have no say in their own marriage. They may even have relationship, or like someone, but are too afraid to stand up. They happily comes into a relationship with someone till 25 for fun, however marry only the guy their parents finalize. However such girls can be found in every social status.

Category 4 : Women who wants to exchange their beauty for comforts.

These type of women have excessive eye for their own beauty. I knew someone from my school who used to visit parlor once every week since she was just sixteen! Parents of such girls have ingrained in their mind that more the beauty= more richer husband, so they think it's totally justified to demand a rich husband, because afterall she's offering beauty. It's very common in Indian households where parents especially mothers often advise their daughter to “look more fair and slim” for a better prospective partner, and feed lies in the mind of young girls that all men want is beauty 24*7. Add that up with virginity, now she has all the “qualities” she deems necessary for a rich husband. In matrimony sites you see maximum girls with normal education and background with less to no earning, but if you look closely, they're beautiful outwardly. Now you know why they keep preference of 10–20 lpa grooms.

Category 5 : Women who are brought up that way.

Many women, especially from lower classes, are still brought up to be housewives in future. Their brain has a very clear image what society wants from a man or a woman. So they're not a lot educated, or skilled, or ambitious. They are meticulously taught about cooking, cleaning and other such “womanly” stuff. So basically when they reach the marriagble age, she's very sure she wants a man who will be go out and earn good amount of money whereas she will be in home and look after the house and kids and all such stuff.

Category 6 : Pseudo Feminists

Now we come to category most men like to bash. But not all women fall in pseudo feminazi. A pseudofeminist is going to be a combination of two or more categories, with a selfish and misandrist attitude. She would bring the man down to money, sex and property, would hate his parents and family unnecessarily, would demand all the comforts, and would not try to understand her share of responsibilities. She would show very less signs of emotional, mental bonding of partnership and problems, show less signs of duties of a wife, however she would be the first one to demand her rights of wife. She would expect the man to “be a man”, however when he would expect her “to be a woman”, she would throw fits of equality (read as selective privilege).

Category 7 : Women who are selectively ambitious.

These kind of women are ambitious, but selectively so. They're independent, earning before their marriage, however, they would want to eventually leave their jobs after marriage, or after pregnancy to take up the more conventional womanly role of raising and caring for kids and husband and looking after house. So they prefer a man who some years down the road can support her decision of being a non working woman. These kind of women are too many, and according to me, many women really don't have another option, especially in corporate jobs and after all the fuss regarding paid maternity leaves, pregnancy really cost many women their jobs today. So they look for financial well to do husband for a safety net of sustainability.

Category 8 : Women who're ambitious and look for “settled partner” and not “rich” husband.

These kind of women look for character and compatibility more than the pocket and looks of the man. She's okay with a little home, his parents and family, his nice little job even if he's earning 30–40k. She's looking for a serious partner, who is settled in his own little way. She doesn't want a rich prince charming. She's ambitious enough to make her own money, even when it's little, and she's ready to build a whole life with her partner cum husband. More than the expensive habits, she's simple and down to earth and practical and emotional too and she's on a mission to find a man who is up for equality, however still understand the basic difference between a man and a woman.

Category 9 : Women who want house husbands, or are ready to take the deal.

Kid you not, a lot of women who're earning handsome salary of lakhs per month, would gladly marry a man who will say yes to be a house husband and move in with her. However such concept in India is majorly failing because :

A lot, yet not too many women will marry men who will be at home.

Even if they will, their parents won't agree.

If the girl, parents agree, the relatives and neighborhood won't.

If the girl, parents, relatives, neighbors agree, it's hard to find a man who's up to be a house husband in India.

If girls, parents, relatives, neighbors, man every one agree, the parents, relatives and neighborhood of the man won't agree.

So in our social stratum, we have women of all kinds. Not all women look for rich husbands. Some look for good natured and good character husband, some for settled husband, some even look for house husband, and some have their own reasons for looking a well to do husband.

It depends upon woman to woman and what she primarily wants from her marriage. Many women primarily marry to secure themselves socially and financially, many women primarily marry for the materialistic comforts the man can provide, and many primarily marry for love and companionship.

So if men wants to really marry a woman he would really be proud of, and if a man expects a woman to not measure him solely on money, men would have to look past the physical beauty too. One cannot run behind the hottest and most beautiful women and cry when such women reject him for the hottest and richest man around, calling such women gold diggers.

If gold digging is bad, so is beauty or virginity digging.