Vidushi Gupta : The SoulHome

“ Abhi na jao chhor kar, ki dil abhi bhara nahi ” Hindi song playing in the background, on Radio. Sanvi, ohh sorry, Mrs Sanvi Anant Sharma, mother of an eight year old daughter and five year old son, is working in the kitchen one fine morning. Mother-in-law  - “Sanvi, prepare tea for all of us, and turn off that radio, we're watching our guruji's morning program.” Mrs Sanvi Anant Sharma turns off the radio . A week later, the festival of Holi descends. Mrs Sanvi Anant Sharma is teaching dance to her daughter , so that she can give a solo performance on the Holi program of the society. 12 years back : Mrs Sanvi Anant Sharma -  “Papaji, can I participate in the holi program? I am a trained classical dancer. I won many prizes in my college also. I really want to perform.” Father-in-law -  “Sanvi, bete, all that was before your marriage. Then ,  you were the daughter of your father. Now, you're my daughter-in-law, and daughter-in-laws don't dance in ...

He was twenty   two. She was thirty two. He was single. She was a single mother. He was a student. She was a probationary officer. She got transferred in his city a week back. She got posted in the branch nearest to his locality. She moved into his house as a tenant with her six year old son. “Rohan, can you go upstairs and   ask Radhika if she needs anything?” Rohan got up lazily and went to ask the new tenant if she was comfortable. He knocked, and a lady opened the door. Olive skinned, long waivy hair, kajal lined big brown eyes, wearing a black kurti with red churidaar, and a red duppatta. Rohan forgot for a moment why he was there. “Yes?” Radhika asked. “Umm, I… I'm Rohan, I am the son… I mean, son of Mr and Mrs Sharma.” “Oh, so you're Rohan,” Radhika smiled. Rohan nodded. “Mom asked if you want some help. I will be happy to help you.” Radhika looked around a bit. She did need help, she had lots of unpacking to do. “Maybe I can use a hand.” Radhi...

“Two days back, a guy lowered his pants, and started masturbating at my neighbor, in front of her home.” I was out, for locking the gate. It was a little after eight. A guy came on his bike, and he began looking sideways. He missed me because it was dark. My neighbor who's around 23, comes home from work after 8, and she walks till home. That guy stopped his bike, and as soon as my neighbor entered the lane, he lowered his pants a little on his bike itself, and started masturbating. We live in a very silent and secluded area, and almost all people goes inside their houses relatively early, hence making the area more secluded. There was no one, except me, who watched it from a distance. A lot of you may be thinking why I didn't shout, well, because firstly I thought him to be a random guy looking for some address, secondly as it was only dimly lit road, it took me few moments to register what he was doing, and thirdly, all this happened in 2–3 minutes, and my mind stopped...

I have been following this question since a long, long, long time, and I really wanted to answer it, even though a woman's perspective is almost useless here, but even then I would love to answer based on my observations : Guys like sex much more they tell or care to admit, especially in front of girls. But they hell do. Males are biologically programmed to look for sex for procreation process. Not their fault, till the point they learn to control it. Even when they're with their girlfriend/wife, they will secretly check out other women, and it means nothing. Women do it too. Checking out other people is normal. If you're mature, you can even check out people together, and laugh about it. Guys call everyone as 'Bhai' or 'Bro'. Even if they are not friends, even random guys become 'Bhai' for them. And their bestest guy friend, he is very IMPORTANT. Don't try to separate them. Let the boys have their brotherhood. Guys love eating. And a lot ...

“You should walk away if it hurts you. It's better than sticking around and hurting yourself more and more. Let the people say whatever, we got your back. Just be happy.” I know a family. Their eldest son was married around 7–8 years ago. That guy, after one year of marriage, moved out, leaving his wife behind, to live with his girlfriend. The sadder part was that, the wife still continued to live in her in-laws house, doing everything a daughter-in-law does, when her husband was openly living with his girlfriend. After five years of waiting and sheer humiliation of the girl, she was finally taken away by her brother. Now I have a simple question. Why was she subjected to such humiliation for five years? Living in a house, taking care of his parents, cooking, cleaning, doing all the work, while her “husband” was posting pictures of vacations with his live-in girlfriend? Shouldn't she had just left right on the day when her husband announced his live-in relationship with...

So Professor Vidushi Gupta is here to break the “girl code” and put out the secrets, which I'm sure many men know anyways  : First thing first, if we love you, you look more cute to us than handsome or sexy, or a combination of all. We're women, and “Awww”, “cute” and other mushy names are just a part of our dictionary. We may not say it to you because you get irritated, but we swoon over your cuteness. Just like you check out other women, we check out other men. No big deal. We can   get a little bit of crushes here and there too. But they're nothing to worry about. We forget them in some hours, or a day. At the end, our heart beats only for our man. If any girl tries to get too close to our guy, we become hell mad, protective, possessive, territorial and everything. We understand friendship and everything, but our guy is our guy, none of your guy. We know where exactly your eyes are. We are better detectives than FBI. This is true for all women. No matter how ma...

Men—the forgotten gender? With a patriarchal society to deal with, even though the “power” and “domination” lies with men, but legally and socially, the society is more inclined and soft towards women.   I think the power with metro men today has become only a false notion to a large extent, which is not bringing them down to equality with women, but in dominance of them. Here are the some ways where society is partial and harsh against men : A 27 year old non-working Indian woman? Don't worry, she has the choice of being at home and have the luxury of marrying a settled guy. A 27 year old non-working Indian man? He should start worrying a lot, and probably forget marriage for next few years. After marriage, for women, in every way they have to leave their former home. It's clear and no one judge them. However for men, it's totally opposite. Today many women demand a separate home than in-laws. Now if the man disregards the choice of wife, he's a bad husband and ...

I don't know about others, but these are things that I have learnt a little late, and I wish I knew these things in my teenage only : People More than relatives, invest yourself in your neighborhood. Neighbors are the people who will always reach you faster than your relatives. In most cases, relatives won't even want to visit you in bad situations. Best friends should be less than five. Friends should be less than twenty. “Contacts” and “sources” should be numerous. Family- Parents, siblings, spouse, children are the only people who stay by your side when everyone else looks away. At least most of the times. Especially parents. Never judge a person by looks, money, degree or anything. Always by his/her character. Most people come and go out of your life. Never stop your life by waiting for them to return. Move on your own path. Your relationship with your partner is as good as the effort you put into it. Do your part. If they're not doing their part then commun...