What are the expectations of Indian girls for marriage?

Based on a 100% true story:

A beautiful girl was married in an average household. The guy was an engineer, the girl, a housewife. Very soon they had two children in some years. The initial few years of marriage were good and normal

But then, the younger brother of the man (brother-in-law) of the woman started a business of real estate and got married too. He brought home a rich girl who wanted a good and luxurious life for herself. To keep his wife happy and to become rich quickly the younger brother started doing various illegal things like making substandard houses which were at risk of collapsing, and he got them approved for sale by heavily bribing the people.

He further wanted to expand the business so he asked his mother and elder brother to help him financially. He sold all the paternal property of the home and asked money from his brother too to invest in several big projects.

The man who was an average job going guy started giving lakhs of his savings to his brother as help. When his wife told him to be practical and told him not to support his brother in such illegal things, he abused his wife mentally, emotionally, financially and physically. His logic was that he will keep his real brother above his wife and children, will support him no matter what he did, and his brother has first right on earnings.

The matter worsened when the man took a loan of 1.5 crores over his salary and sold off some of the jewelry of his wife that she brought in marriage without even telling her and gave all the money to the brother. When she questioned her husband and brother-in-law and other in-laws regarding this, she was insulted badly by the whole family in her own home. Not only she, but her parents were abused and called names in front of her too. The husband who gave over 2 crores of money to his younger brother (age difference between two brothers is 1 year by the way) told his wife that he does not have money to pay the fees of his own kids and she can skip sending them school and instead home school them and if even that is difficult then can kill them.

The brother-in-law told the woman that his brother is his brother first and later a husband and a father. Even if she will ask her husband to stop giving money, his brother won't listen to her and their bond is stronger. The mother-in-law and father-in-law kept silent as the daughter-in-law was someone else's daughter, not their own daughter, so her tears did not affect them. All of them wanted her to ‘adjust'.

Finally, this was the nail on the coffin of their marriage. After suffering in various forms for around a decade, the woman got divorced few months back. She is back at her maternal home with her children. Her brother is settled in the UK with his wife and kids, and as a woman in mid-thirties, her parents are quite old to look after all of them. Their financial condition is not that good that they can provide for all of them, especially the children for their education and secured future. They are afraid of going to court as the other party is well connected and blackmails them.

The above story is of a woman who is the daughter of my father's best friend. My father and that Uncle did their college together around 40–45 years back. They are very close. Because of their friendship, my mother and aunty are very close too. I am not that close with that woman as there is a huge age difference, but she and my elder sisters are friends.

Because of such a close relationship with that family I am regularly updated about all the happenings and details. Various times my parents and Uncle and aunty have had this discussion in front of me for hours. I have seen them crying badly.

Imagine seeing an old man of about 65–70 years crying helplessly like a child because he cannot protect his own daughter and her dignity from her husband and her in-laws.

I don't know about other Indian girls, but after watching this case so closely, the most important expectation that I have from my future husband is this:

I know your parents and siblings are very important to you, but kindly understand that I and our children will be equally important in your life. Kindly don't mistreat us. Understand the value of every relationship. Insulting, disowning, abusing and disrespecting your wife and your children for your parents and/or siblings, keeping them secondary isn't moral.

They might have been a part of your life before me and our kids, but this fact cannot make your wife and children less important than them.

Be a good son and a brother. I will support you. But be an equally good husband and a father too. Fulfilling all your roles impartially will make you a complete man.

If you're theirs, be equally mine too if not more.

Even Lord Rama wasn't forgiven by Mother Sita for abandoning her in the middle of the forest when she was pregnant with his children to protect the honor of his family name.

P.S- I admit that many false cases are being charged u/s 498A for selfish motives. But one can also not deny the fact that many genuine cases of dowry and domestic violence of women do not reach the courts.

Just like this one.

This woman and her children will never get justice.

Edit: After seeing such a positive response here, I have sent this answer to her to motivate her to fight for her rights for a better future of her children. Maybe she won't like that I shared her story on a public forum, but I hope she understands that this will create social awareness.

Edit 1: One guy commented a long paragraph blaming the girl, that the girl is a gold digger and has no right on the money of the husband because she is a housewife and she should earn her own bread and butter. The husband is earning his own money and has all the rights to spend whereever he wants and his wife cannot say a word to him.

As I said Sir, just because the victim isn't our daughter, sister or someone very close to us, her tears will appear fake and selfish to us and we will be unmoved.

I don't want that woman to read negative comments in which she will be called names, so I will block such commentators. I don't want her to go through any more negativity than she has endured already.