Best Relationship Advises In 2020

Best Relationship Advises In 2020


The world is changing. You and I are no longer living in the good old eighties or nineties, where romance was simple, where relationships and marriages really lasted a lifetime. Fortunately or unfortunately, the dating game today has changed drastically. What worked for the last generation, no longer works for us.

So what are the secrets to a long-lasting relationship that will fill your life with happiness and completeness?

Well here is a short list of how you can make your relation a huge success. 

1. Change Your Perspective- Many 'millennials' I interact with believe in the concept of hit and trial. For some, it may work, but for most, it doesn't. They have a vast pool for dating, and it can be both, a blessing and a curse. Many youngsters get into a relationship, not with the idea of 'forever', but with the idea of 'let's see where it goes and if we can find someone better.', and this is the perspective that needs to be changed for having a successful relationship. A human cannot value something they deem easily replaceable. If you want to be a part of a long-lasting romantic love story, you need to treat it very seriously.
   
2. Increase Your Emotional Intelligence- Relationships are hard on our mental health. Differences, incompatibilities, arguments, disagreements, misunderstandings, there are so many aspects in a relationship that can take a toll on our mental health, and in these times, it is our emotional intelligence that ensures the overall health of our relationship. If both the partners behave irrationally, at the same time, and at most times, that relationship will crumble down like a house of cards. What two people together need is a lot of patience to deal with circumstances that are not favorable at a given point of time. 
   
   
   
   
   
3. Communicate- Not just through your phones. For a relationship to have meaning, communication between the two parties is a must. In the honeymoon period, it is so simple to talk to your partner for hours, meet up for dates. But as time passes, people stop communicating with their partners. A few texts or phone calls or emails doesn't make most relationships a good one. Its the quality of conversations, be it real or virtual that defines the future of a couple. So if you really like your person, meet them if you can and talk to them about things that really matter.
   
   
   
    
4. Equality- Gone are the days of the age-old patriarchy, and to be honest, feminism itself is taking a wrong turn by going into extremes at some points. When I write the word equality, I do not mean that men and women are essentially equal to each other in every way. They're not. men and women have been crafted differently for a purpose. However, that does not justify the blatant sexism we often face in our society which slowly creeps in our relationship too. That is to be prevented. Be equal in choices, opportunities, opinions, but in some areas, be masculine or feminine as per your gender.
   
   
5. Personal Boundaries- It feels good to be in a relationship. Having someone you can count on, share your joys and pains with, telling them your secrets without having any fear. It feels great to call someone yours in this vast world. And this isn't bad. But when the dependency increase in a relationship, when two people start crossing an invisible line, the same love becomes a cage. No matter if you're in a relationship or marriage, there has to be a personal space in that union, a place where both the people can retreat to and do things they personally want to do. Growing as a couple is important, but it is also important to grow individually. Love should not hamper personal growth. 
   
6. Be Friends- "Pyaar Dosti Hai', we all remember Rahul saying these words in 'Kuch Kuch Hota Hai'. When I heard it first, I was just a naive child, naturally, I didn't understand it. But now, after several years, as an adult I do, and I can vouch for the truth in that little sentence. Happy couples aren't just two people who are crazily in love doing romantic things all the time. They are just simple people who behave like best friends with each other. They talk, they make fun of each other, they support, they scold. Basically, they are best friends for life, at least for most of the part.
   
7. Fight- Many people have a notion that fighting with your partner can lead to a failed relationship, but I differ. Fighting with your partner, if done once in a while for the right reasons, can lead to a better relationship. When two people who have had a different upbringing, two different personalities, two different sets of values, two different perspectives, its very natural for them to find themselves on very different pages of life. In such circumstances, occasionally having a heated argument isn't bad, given it does not become abusive or too regular. Fighting shows that you care about each other's opinions and differences. Several couples stop fighting with each other right before their breakup because they just no longer care and don't want to waste their energy in fighting with a person they don't love or care about. 
   
   
   
8. Let Past Be In The Past- "Remember how you forgot my birthday in 2005?" or "That Tuesday in the fall of 1995, your brother was extremely rude to me." Stop. Please. Don't. Do. This. Out of all the blunders one can commit in their romantic life, this is one of the worst. I read so many articles about people telling, sorry not telling, complaining how tired they're from listening to their mistakes for a thousand times, over and over again, even the ones they committed more than a decade back. Literally, if you're someone who has a sharp memory and does not believe in forgetting, kindly be gentle on your partner. After all, they're just a human.
   
9. Make Each Other Laugh And Support- I don't know why but I still think laughter is such an under-estimated relationship therapy, especially when a couple is going through tough times, either in their relationship or in general life. For example, when your partner comes home tired from a long day at work, instead of asking them about their day as soon as they walk through the door, or telling them about yours, why not try cracking a few lame jokes or teases to make them relax. After making their mental state a little relaxed by humor, you can always go back to discuss whatever serious topics you have in your mind. Humor, laughter work wonders in your romantic life. Try it to know it.
   
   
   
10. Do New Adventures And Grow Together- Relationships break when either it becomes too monotonous or both the people grow apart. The only remedy? Try new activities together. No matter how busy and occupied you both are, try to do something new every once in a while. It can be a weekend getaway to a neighboring town or you can simply cook a new meal or watch old classics every Sunday. You can join a dance class or gym together or simply go on a morning walk. The catch is simple, you both need to spend a lot of quality time together, do a lot of new things to keep the relationship fresh and exciting. To ensure that after a few years, you two don't grow apart, but grow together in the same direction.
    
    I really hope that these points will help you tremendously and also that you and your partner truly find your forever after.