Vidushi Gupta : The SoulHome

“Its been a year since our break up. He and I were together for two long years. He was an Engineer in an MNC, and I was working as a government doctor in the city hospital during those days. We met at a wedding. The bride was his cousin, the groom was my school friend. The little flirting soon turned into a drunk makeout and the sensual spark soon led to a full-fledged relationship, which, unfortunately, after a couple of years, we had to call quits. Why you might ask. Was it because we weren't compatible or is it because one of us was cheating on the other? Was it because we were bored of the monotony, or did the relationship simply met its natural end? Was it because our families were against love marriages, or was it because we just did not have the patience to understand love? Well, neither I nor he knows for sure what the exact reason was. The reason might be was a mixture of all of them, or not. It wasn't like we decided the expiry date, we simply 'fell out of l...

‘I lay in my bed lifelessly. I haven't left it for three days. I haven't showered, hell I haven't shaved for two weeks. She liked my stubble look, and now whenever I look into the mirror, I wonder if she would have found this look as attractive. I pick up my phone and take a selfie, contemplate if I should send it to her like before and ask her what she thinks. But I don't. I keep the phone back. I get up slowly from the bed to use the restroom, and then stuff my mouth with few pieces of bread. Enough to keep me alive. I have lost some weight because of my lack of eating, especially for two weeks, when I left my job after serving my two months resignation period. Two weeks and I haven't left my rented room. I haven't told anyone back at home that I am jobless and depressed. We broke up two months ago. I won't go into the reasons. But after that, my life had turned upside down. I have no sense of time anymore. I try to sleep, but I cannot. I simply turn...

"He was a virgin. Twenty. All his friends had a girlfriend. They had done it. He was the only virgin of the group, the laughing stock between all. ' What kind of a man are you? Real men do not remain virgins for long. So what if you don't have a girlfriend? Men can visit prostitutes too. They are cheap and easy.' His friend suggested. He decided to listen to his friend. He wanted to become a real man. The pressure of having sex was rising on him. His virginity was becoming his biggest disrespect. He went to Sonagachi. He entered the smelly and depressing red light areas. Women and girls ranging from the age of 5 to 50 were standing on roads, their face powdered and cheap lipsticks on their swelled lips, waiting for their 30th customer of the day. ' Aye hero chalta hai kya. Bas 50rs mai.' A girl, barely 13, held his hand. ‘Hey hero, want to come for just for Rs 50?’ He got scared. He moved ahead fast. ' Oye Sir, kya maal mangta tumko. Me...

As an Indian girl/woman you'll find many guys telling you that they like you or love you, but most of them doesn't mean a word they say. So amidst all the fake words and promises, these are the signs of recognizing a man who's truly in love with you: He not only knows you, he understands you:  Not just your habits, your likes or dislikes, your mood swings, the man who truly loves you will understand the reasons behind your behavior as well. He's super supportive:  He would be your personal cheerleader and will motivate you to chase your dreams, and will also let you know when you're on the wrong path. He respects your ‘No '- Not just in physical aspects, but in every aspect of life. If you have told him that you're not comfortable in doing something, he will not push you to do something, even if it hurts him deep down. He shares stuff and needs your opinion - Be it his clothes, be it his career, or even something small, he shares what's going on i...

Sexuality - As young boys are high on testosterone, they are often driven by their sexual urges which makes them do acts that they either regret in future or ruins their future altogether Say no to ‘Over-Porn '- I won't say that you should never watch porn, because this advice will be impossible to follow by 99% of guys out there. However, you should limit your porn time in a week. Porn is nothing but a fantasy, and there is nothing real. At most, porn makes men believe that normal women can act like porn stars and actual sex is just like the project on the screen. One-night stand or a hooker-  Casual sex, either with a girl one met at a bar or fest or party or with a paid hooker is so much more rampant in India now. But before you make this decision, do think about all the safety measures and precautions for a few minutes. Do not place a few minutes of pleasure above your life and health. Be safe. Relationships just for sex - Never misguide a girl and enter into a relati...

When a person finds himself or herself in a one-sided love story, it is easy to get depressed, irritated, frustrated when the love isn't reciprocated ,  and its just basic human nature. When we are devoting our time into something or someone constantly, we want something in return. After all we are profit oriented beings. But when love, any kind of love gets profit oriented, it stops being love altogether. It becomes a transaction. “ You shall love me because I love you.”  Does this sound love to you?   To me, not so. Love is free of power, control, returns, profit, intimidation, coercion. You cannot force someone to love you. They either do it naturally, or they don't. They don't owe you love or relationship just because you love them. You love them because you wanted to, they did not tell you to love them. Sameway, you cannot tell them to love you. So my first advice would be: Don't expect them to love you because you love them. But you say it's painful?...