Should your partner be considered more important than your family?

 First 25 years—

• Your family is more important than everyone.
• Your life revolves around your birth family, parents, siblings, cousins, etc.
• Friends, boyfriend/girlfriend does exist but doesn't matter much like family does because real and active life lies with the family.
• All your needs and demands are met by the family.
• All in all your parents/siblings > the world.

After 25 years-

• You either get married by this age or most probably you get into a serious relationship.
• You start spending and sharing less time with your parents and family and more with your partner.
• Your siblings too start getting married or moving away. Even you move away in most cases.
• Your needs become dependent on your partner more than your family.
• If you're married you begin a new family with your spouse. After marriage,l everyone takes their spouse (and kids if they exist) with themselves leaving their birth family behind if they settle somewhere else.
• If you're married you yourself feel one with your spouse, a kind of completeness and devotion towards each other which you do not feel for any other relationship.
• All in all, after marriage, your spouse + kids > the world.

After marriage, the most important relationship that exists is between husband and wife. They come first.

Now many people will argue, “How can my husband/wife be more important than my parents or siblings, they just entered my life a few months/years ago but my family exists since birth with me.”

That's no logic at all.

By that logic children should be the least important and grandchildren shouldn't be important at all in a family dynamic. But as far as I know, people love their kids and grandkids the most, even more than their parents or siblings.

By that logic, your kindergarten should be more important than your current college/job.

After marriage,,;l husband-wife become a team for the rest of their lives and when they make each other a priority and work as a team they are much happier and they tackle the rest of relationships more maturely.

However, where the husband and wife keep their birth families as a priority even after their marriage, it impacts their union hugely.

How will a marriage work if the man will remain a mama's boy or the woman will remain a daddy's princess and they keep on putting their respective families first?

Does that mean the family isn't important?

They're. They obviously are important. But are they more important than your marriage, spouse, and kids combined? No. Your prime responsibility after marriage lies towards your kids and spouse. You can definitely help your parents/siblings as much as you want but only when your current family's needs are met.

Now coming to the scenario of before marriage.

If a couple isn't married then undoubtedly the family comes first before the partner.

But does that mean that you should leave your partner for your family?

It depends. Why your family is against your partner?

• Is it because of religion/caste/creed/race/gender?
• Is it because of money or education or looks or family background or some health concerns?
• Or is it just a plain ego issue?

You need to look into the matter logically. If why your family is asking your partner has logical reasoning, you should break up.

If your family demands you to leave your partner without any valid reason, do not choose them.

If your partner advises. you to break ties with your family without any valid logic, do not choose him/her either.

You can never exactly choose one from them, you just need to observe who is doing what. There is no fixed answer, you just need to go with what you feel is right.