10 Ways To Move On After A Break-Up

We have all experienced heartbreak at one point in our life. Yes, it is hard, very hard indeed. When a relationship breaks, many other things die with it too. Commitment, the security towards the future, the memories, the shared times, the trust, the investment, the emotions, everything after a breakup just boils down to nil and many people find it really hard to move on. 

So what should one do after he/she finds the relationship they've been relying on all along with crumbles down? Well here are ten ways that will surely help you move on.

1. Cry: Although I am very sure that is anyway the number one thing almost all people are doing after their break up, but still, there are few people, especially men, who find it really hard to shed tears for the fallen love. They bottle up their feelings inside and pretend that they're fine, which in the long run harm their emotional health. So if you're someone who feels shame in crying, please don't. Play some break up sad songs and cry over your loss until you feel that its all out. And then, move onto the next step. 
   
   
   
   
   
2. Say No To Contact- After a very devastating breakup, it feels very natural to feel empty. The person who used to be so important part of your day is now no longer around. The idea of calling, texting, or stalking them, especially on social media seems like a very lucrative idea and you find yourself checking their Facebook, WhatsApp, or IG pages several times a day. Don't do it. Even though I know you find it very soothing to be able to still keep tabs about their life, but trust me it won't do any good to you. If your life will start revolving around their social life, then this web will never let you move on. You don't need to talk to them, on texts, calls, emails, nothing. Doing any of this will only take you many steps back. So trust my word and simply block them from your digital world. Also, delete all their pictures, messages, or any digital stuff that reminds you of them. If you cannot delete, make a folder of them and simply hide that folder. 
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
3. Talk To Your Friends: Friends are wonderful beings, and real friends are even more than that. And nothing, literally nothing beats an evening spent with your best friend over a cup of coffee where you share all your sadness and pains with them. A good friend will not only patiently listen to what you have to say, but they will also offer some help and suggestions without any judgment. 'Best Friend Therapy' as I call it is one of the best medicine available out there for a paining heart. 
   
   
   
   
4. Write A Journal Or A Diary: This is one of my favorites. An aching heart can find immense and immediate relief when the emotions are poured on a paper in the form of words. All the emotions hidden deep inside when are written down show us a mirror of our own mind. We can no longer run away in denial, and neither we can always turn to the best of our friends because somethings are just too personal to share, and in those times, nothing beats writing your heart out.
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
   
5. Take Up New Hobbies: Join dance classes or experiment new recipes by watching YouTube videos, or join a book club in your city. After a break up we can find a lot of time and energy which remain unutilized, and then we invest them into negative overthinking. What we don't try a lot of times is that we can invest the same resources into learning something new and constructive. 
   
   
   
   
   
   
6. Go On A Solo Trip:  Traveling solo rejuvenates mind and heart. When you're in a new place amidst new culture, trying a variety of cuisine, art, exotic places and planning about your next stop and step, your mind is occupied in the new experiences, so much so that it doesn't get a lot of time to hover on the past and you tend to think very little about the breakup. A week or even a weekend solo getaway from the regular hustle-bustle of your life can be very beneficial and will definitely help you in coping up with the changes in life. 
   
   
   
   
   
7. Meet New People: No, I am not talking about a rebound relationship. Meeting people doesn't always mean that you have to always jump into a new relationship. Meeting new people means having conversations, making networks, being social, having fun instead of sitting locked in a room remembering past memories over and over again. As humans, we are social beings and when we have a strong social life, it makes us mentally strong. It not only shows us what others are going through in their life which could be worse than ours, but it also gives us the courage to keep fighting our battles. 
   
   
   
   
8. Read: From fictional novels to self-help books, from business magazines to local newspapers, read anything that interests you. They can be cookery blogs or simple articles, reading is a total mind changer. Reading does not only make you more focused and intelligent, but it also takes your mind off unnecessary drama and problems. Reading, especially in the silent afternoons or in the night before sleeping can take you totally in another world and make you forget your reality for a while. 
   
   
   
   
   
   
9. Accept And Analyze: A relationship fails because of a reason, especially if that relationship was long term relationship. After a few months, when the reality starts sinking in, our mind and heart begin to accept that we have indeed been separated from a loved one, but, apart from sorrow, it is also very important for us to look back and understand what went wrong, analyze the situations, and learn from our mistakes so we do not make them in our next relationship. Heartbreak teaches us a lot of things and makes us grow as a person if we are willing to learn from them. 
   
   
   
   
   
   
10. Give Another Chance To Love: Many people after their heartbreak become too scared to love another person again. They feel as if love can only happen once, and they think that they will never experience love again. They simply go into their shells and never give love another chance, and even if they do, they are never in those relationships truly. However, just like in our life we have some happy days and sad days, likewise, we sometimes have unfulfilled relationships so that we can learn from our mistakes and polish ourselves for that one relationship of our life. So when you feel ready, give another chance to love.