Vidushi Gupta : The SoulHome

‘ If your woman fights with you, there is hope. It is when the woman becomes silent, you have truly lost her.’ Keeping everything aside, the biggest sign that a woman neither loves nor wants to be with a man any longer is when she stops fighting, cribbing, complaining, nagging, perfecting, correcting him. The things in women which most husbands/boyfriends hate; the nature of constantly speaking, men don't realize women do not ‘nag' and ‘fight' with any random man walking down the street, sticking on the face of any man out there, constantly asking to help her do the dishes or pay the bills. Women crib only in front of men they genuinely love and sincerely want a future with. Why will I ask my neighbor ten times a day to not drink alcohol or to be safe on roads? Why will I ask that classmate of mine thrice a day whether or not he had had his food? Why will I ask that Instagram model if he is okay in life? Why will I assure the Quora guy that I believe in him an...

Dear fellow ‘feminist' women, I am a woman too. I am a feminist too. I advocate for the equality of choices and opportunities too. I am a writer, an author and there are a lot of aspects to my professional life. But . At the same time, I also want to get married. I want to have kids. I would like to have a family where both mine and his family would be around us. And that does not make me slave. Marriage and motherhood, taking care of families by default is not slavery or torture. My feminism is not  anti-marriage or anti-children . My feminism is about respecting choices of different humans. If a woman wants to get married at 25, let her be. She chose it. She might be happy in doing so. If a woman wants to be pregnant and go through nine hard months to birth her child, let her be. She chose it. She might be happy in doing so. If a woman wants to be a good housemaker and look after her family instead of going to work, let her be. She chose it. She might be happy in do...

Case 1  -  18th April 2019 It was Election Day in my city. We got up early and went to cast our votes. When we came back, and my father was unlocking the main gate, a woman in her mid-thirties,   thin and   short, but still healthy ,  wearing shabby clothes came up to him and asked for some money. I was listening to their conversation because I was standing close to him. She  - “ Sir, give me some money sir. I have a marriage in my home. Please help us, Sir.” My father gave her one 5Rs coin. She (slightly sarcastic and angry) -  “ 5 Rs only? You're rich people. You have a car, you have a big house. At least give 500Rs.” I was furious. I stopped my father from talking to her further and stepped up, and said in the strictest tone. I - “ If these 5 Rs are disrespectful to you, return me the coin, I will happily accept it back because we earn every penny by honesty and hard work, and we are not obligated in any way to give you any money for t...

Hate any celebrity? Make fun of him/her? Doesn't matter to them. They will always be more famous, rich and successful than most of us. At the end of the day, we all know them, and they don't know us. Think you're the best? Think again. People will always judge you. No matter what you do or don't do. Marriages aren't complex. It is the immaturity and selfishness of people  in them who break them. If we take out our parent's money, care, and support, what is left of our reality? We are only kings and queens on the sponsorship of our parents. Alone, we find it hard to manage even three proper meals in one day. We're nothing without our parents, till the time we are properly settled in life. Like in thirties or forties. We want to have more and more, but we want to work less and less. Your husband loves his mother more than he loves you. He always will. Your wife loves her son and daughter more than she loves you. She always will. People can be bought ...

'Humare ghar ladki kyun hogi, humne koi karz nahi lie. Humare ghar toh bas bete honge. Desi ghee ke ladoo hote hain bete toh.’ ‘Why will God send girls in our house. We are not debtors. We will have only sons in our house. After all sons are the richest of sweets.’ These were the exact words of my elder sister's mother-in-law to my mother, which she said sarcastically when my elder sister delivered her first born, a baby boy, 13 years back. A little backdrop : We are three sisters, and my elder sister is married into a house where all four children are men. My brother-in-law, his real brother and his two cousin brothers of his paternal uncle. So when my sister delivered a baby boy, her mother-in-law taunted her indirectly that they are superior as every child born in their family has been a boy because they're not ‘debtors', however my parents are of highest degree, as they have three daughters and not even one son. Year 2011  : Their younger daughter-in...

Hey, you working on your next book ?’ A reader asked me one day on Instagram. ‘Yes, I am.’ I replied. ‘ What’s the plot ?’ He curiously questioned. ‘Well, that's a surprise.’ ‘ Oh tell me a little bit, I won't reveal it to anyone .’ He tried again. ‘Nope.’ The decision was final. ‘It is okay. Well if not yours, can you tell me some other plot, you know, just give me an idea about a book. ’ The guy was adamant. ‘Why?’ ‘ Because I want to be an author too. ’ He revealed. ‘Then you should try to think about the plot by yourself, research about it, read a lot, and then write.’ I explained him the process of writing a book. ‘That is a tedious process. It can all take several months to years. I also have a day job   and other things in my  life , you know. But if you can give me the story line, and help me a bit, you will make my dream come true. I will also pay you. Help me.’  He sounded desperate. ‘Nope. Sorry. If it is really your dream, you'll do it...

Scenario 1: He  : ‘Serve me my dinner fast. I am very hungry.’ She  : ‘Wait for a minute,’ * keeps his plate in front of him *, ‘look, I made your favourite Pasta.’ Him  :  * Tasting food*  ‘No, you ruined my favorite Pasta. It is tasteless. Throw this. I will order a pizza.’ * Makes a face and gets up in anger. * She silently wipes her eyes. Scenario 2 : Him  : ‘Look sweetheart, I brought a dress for you, a gift. It is not expensive, but you'll look very pretty in it.’  He handed her the gift package blushing. She  : ‘What is this? Will I wear this roadside thing? My friends will laugh at me. Why did I even marry you, who can not even gift me one good thing ever!’  She threw the gift on the bed and went inside bathroom . He silently left the room with a heavy heart. What is one of the relationship sin we all should avoid? Belittling the efforts of our partner and disrespecting them. When someone loves us enough to ...