Vidushi Gupta : The SoulHome

Case 1  -  18th April 2019 It was Election Day in my city. We got up early and went to cast our votes. When we came back, and my father was unlocking the main gate, a woman in her mid-thirties,   thin and   short, but still healthy ,  wearing shabby clothes came up to him and asked for some money. I was listening to their conversation because I was standing close to him. She  - “ Sir, give me some money sir. I have a marriage in my home. Please help us, Sir.” My father gave her one 5Rs coin. She (slightly sarcastic and angry) -  “ 5 Rs only? You're rich people. You have a car, you have a big house. At least give 500Rs.” I was furious. I stopped my father from talking to her further and stepped up, and said in the strictest tone. I - “ If these 5 Rs are disrespectful to you, return me the coin, I will happily accept it back because we earn every penny by honesty and hard work, and we are not obligated in any way to give you any money for t...

Hate any celebrity? Make fun of him/her? Doesn't matter to them. They will always be more famous, rich and successful than most of us. At the end of the day, we all know them, and they don't know us. Think you're the best? Think again. People will always judge you. No matter what you do or don't do. Marriages aren't complex. It is the immaturity and selfishness of people  in them who break them. If we take out our parent's money, care, and support, what is left of our reality? We are only kings and queens on the sponsorship of our parents. Alone, we find it hard to manage even three proper meals in one day. We're nothing without our parents, till the time we are properly settled in life. Like in thirties or forties. We want to have more and more, but we want to work less and less. Your husband loves his mother more than he loves you. He always will. Your wife loves her son and daughter more than she loves you. She always will. People can be bought ...

'Humare ghar ladki kyun hogi, humne koi karz nahi lie. Humare ghar toh bas bete honge. Desi ghee ke ladoo hote hain bete toh.’ ‘Why will God send girls in our house. We are not debtors. We will have only sons in our house. After all sons are the richest of sweets.’ These were the exact words of my elder sister's mother-in-law to my mother, which she said sarcastically when my elder sister delivered her first born, a baby boy, 13 years back. A little backdrop : We are three sisters, and my elder sister is married into a house where all four children are men. My brother-in-law, his real brother and his two cousin brothers of his paternal uncle. So when my sister delivered a baby boy, her mother-in-law taunted her indirectly that they are superior as every child born in their family has been a boy because they're not ‘debtors', however my parents are of highest degree, as they have three daughters and not even one son. Year 2011  : Their younger daughter-in...

Hey, you working on your next book ?’ A reader asked me one day on Instagram. ‘Yes, I am.’ I replied. ‘ What’s the plot ?’ He curiously questioned. ‘Well, that's a surprise.’ ‘ Oh tell me a little bit, I won't reveal it to anyone .’ He tried again. ‘Nope.’ The decision was final. ‘It is okay. Well if not yours, can you tell me some other plot, you know, just give me an idea about a book. ’ The guy was adamant. ‘Why?’ ‘ Because I want to be an author too. ’ He revealed. ‘Then you should try to think about the plot by yourself, research about it, read a lot, and then write.’ I explained him the process of writing a book. ‘That is a tedious process. It can all take several months to years. I also have a day job   and other things in my  life , you know. But if you can give me the story line, and help me a bit, you will make my dream come true. I will also pay you. Help me.’  He sounded desperate. ‘Nope. Sorry. If it is really your dream, you'll do it...

Scenario 1: He  : ‘Serve me my dinner fast. I am very hungry.’ She  : ‘Wait for a minute,’ * keeps his plate in front of him *, ‘look, I made your favourite Pasta.’ Him  :  * Tasting food*  ‘No, you ruined my favorite Pasta. It is tasteless. Throw this. I will order a pizza.’ * Makes a face and gets up in anger. * She silently wipes her eyes. Scenario 2 : Him  : ‘Look sweetheart, I brought a dress for you, a gift. It is not expensive, but you'll look very pretty in it.’  He handed her the gift package blushing. She  : ‘What is this? Will I wear this roadside thing? My friends will laugh at me. Why did I even marry you, who can not even gift me one good thing ever!’  She threw the gift on the bed and went inside bathroom . He silently left the room with a heavy heart. What is one of the relationship sin we all should avoid? Belittling the efforts of our partner and disrespecting them. When someone loves us enough to ...

‘ You know Vidushi, I love her a lot, but I can’t tell her that. I cannot show her my love. I act normal and don't show my love and affection when inside my heart I want to make her feel like my Princess every day.’  My friend told me one day on call. ‘Then do it, say it, make her feel like your princess every day. Why are you stopping yourself? Doesn't she love you?’ ‘ No, she loves me a lot. But I am just afraid, that if I will show her too much of my emotions, she will find me unmanly. ’ He replied in a soft yet unsettled tone. He was missing her terribly, I knew. ‘That is not true at all bud. On the contrary, she will feel amazing. Women like men who can show emotions, just don't overdo them every day. Once in a while is enough.’ I assured him. ‘ You sure? She won't make fun of me or leave me because of this right? She won't find me desperate or weak if I told her I love her a lot and need her? ’ He sounded skeptical, almost unbelieving. ‘Absolutely...

Grocery store : ‘Give me that Aunty, I will carry it and keep it in your car.’ A young boy in his early twenties said to an aunt in her late fifties, carrying almost a ten-kilogram carton to her car. Helping the old people politely makes people charming. Cafe  : Him: ‘Okay, I was wrong.’ Her: ‘No, I overreacted.’ Him: ‘I'm sorry.’ Her: ‘I'm sorry too.’ The art of keeping a relationship above ego makes people charming. WhatsApp conversation : Him: ‘So what do you want to do in life?’ Her: ‘Wrong question. Ask me what I want to become in life. I dream of things more than I am allowed to.’ Having life goals make people charming. Conference  : Them: ‘You know so much. You're so intelligent and wise.’ Him: ‘No. I'm not. I'm very ordinary.’ Being humble about oneself makes a person charming. Home  : She: ‘Mom, did you eat your lunch and medicines?’ Mom: ‘No, I forgot.’ She: ‘Mom, you should take care of yourself. Wait, le...